I'm not surprised that Kate Kelly was excommunicated. No one should be.
I think about a store owner who has a rule posted that the person who doesn't wear shoes into their store will be kicked out. Some barefoot customer walks in and is immediately asked to put on shoes or leave. The person refuses. The store owner follows through and the customer is then kicked out.
Should that surprise anyone?
This Kate Kelly thing isn't about whether women should or should not be ordained into the Priesthood. This is about rule-following, plain and simple. She belonged to a church that has a specific set of rules, which brings a specific set of consequences. She broke the rules. She received said consequences.
I'm not a feminist, although sometimes I do see the inequality in the church, or life in general. I wish things could be different at times, but I'm not a passionate feminist and that's okay. If Kate Kelly, or the women who share her beliefs want to see changes in the church... well, okay. Do your part. Speak up. Do the work. But please, PLEASE don't be surprised when you receive the discipline that you were told you would receive if you commit such an act. Yes, she was told what the expectation would be of her as a member of the church. We all were.
I was excommunicated (twice) for homosexual behaviors. Do I wish the church had a different point of view on homosexuality? ABSOLUTELY! Do I wish I could be a member of the church and still embrace every part of what it means to be gay? Ah hell yes. But I knew what the consequence would be if I acted on my sexual desires with a woman. I knew what would probably happen if I had an affair while I was married. I had the knowledge and I made my decision. Although I continue to be deeply saddened by the outcome (excommunication...twice) I will not pretend that I'm surprised by it.
Just like a store owner, the church gets to have a set of rules that members need to abide by, should they want the full blessings they believe they'll receive in doing so. The church is not at fault for following through with the promise of discipline when the expectations are clearly stated for all members.
Kate's excommunication is not about women and the priesthood and whether or not that should happen. My excommunication(s) weren't about whether or not it's "right" what the church feels about, nor how the church deals with homosexuality. Let's bring it back to the basics. A rule was broken and a consequence was given. I don't understand why that's hard to understand.
I have a feeling my view isn't going to be very popular, and that's fine.
With all of that being said, I truly believe that we need to speak up about our truths. We need to make a stand. Change will not happen if we remain silent. It may never happen anyway, but if our passionate pleas are never heard, we will most certainly never realize the changes we hope to see. While I don't really have an opinion on whether or not women should have the priesthood, I do support that concept of standing up for the righteous desires of ones heart. For this, I applaud Kate Kelly and the women like her who feel the same. I'll continue to stand and proclaim my love for my Savior and for my desire to be accepted into a church that has thrown me away (twice). I will continue to pray for change and pray for love, knowing that my dream may never become a reality; I will also recognize the limits and consequences should I cross those lines.